The early 1950s brought us John Bowlby's work on infant attachment, mirrored by Harry Harlow's primate attachment studies on rhesus monkeys. The 50s and 60s saw the advent of Murray Bowen's groundbreaking work on differentiation. The 1970s brought us further with Margaret Mahler's work on separation/individuation and the psychological birth of the human infant. Today, clinicians and researchers alike attempt to validate the developmental theories of Bowlby, Bowen, and Mahler thro
This workshop is designed for couple’s therapists who have trained in the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Increase your skills in effective confrontation and incisive resolution of intrapsychic conflicts. Bring some of your toughest challenges and join Ellyn Bader and Sue Diamond-Potts to strengthen your ability to confront and transform those unrelenting couples’ impasses.
For decades, psychoanalytic models of individual therapy were retrofitted into marital treatment models. These approaches tended to be ineffective with character disordered partners. With the recent emergence of polytheoretical, psychobiological approaches to couple therapy, the clinician can now be more effective with character disordered partners. This two hour workshop will help clinicians differentiate between those partners who are psychoneurotic, insecurely attached, or undifferentiated, a
Secure attachment offers us a potent sense of safety and a way to maintain equilibrium in the presence of danger or threat. These bonds allow us to tolerate and cope with our human frailty. The love one person feels from another has an enormous effect on them, both physically and emotionally. One of the goals of EFT is to help partners see how they are both caught in a recurring pattern of emotional disconnection, triggering each other into aggressively demanding a response or freezing up and sh
Curiosity is the path to wonder. Most workshops focus on processes therapists can learn to help couples remove the constraints to the relationship they want. In this workshop, participants will learn about wonder as the ultimate quality of a thriving relationship and discover techniques that help intimate partners transition from judgment to curiosity and wonder.
Are you ready to hear your favorite long-term couple client tell you they are fighting because one of them is interested in exploring polyamory and the other is not? Would you choose to work with a couple who told you on the phone they live and love with 2 other people and some tensions are arising? Many people are exploring consensually non-monogamous relationships, and as a result, related issues are showing up in therapy rooms everywhere. This workshop will debunk myths, distinguish between n
When One or Both Partners are Highly Cognitive or Emotionally Avoidant. Accessing and deepening vulnerable emotions that are at first hidden, unspoken, unknown or masked by reactive and protective emotions is one of the most powerful skills of an emotionally focused couples therapist. Emotionally focused therapists facilitate emotionally moving enactments by guiding avoidant partners to turn to their partner and to share with them about their pain, sadness and fears.
Can couples sustain the passion of romantic love? The answer: it depends upon the quality of the interactive space. This lecture will describe a new kind of marriage/ intimate relationship that meets the conditions required for restoring and sustaining the sensation of passionate love.
At no other time in history have men been so awash in mixed cultural messages and in such a state of transition, confusion, reactivity, and trouble. Despite being basically good hearted, many men continue to make a hash of their relationships. We therapists can help, but not before rethinking some of the sacred cows of therapeutic practice. Men need action and leadership from us, challenging them while still loving the little boy inside them and offering guidance and tools to their inner grown-up.
Passive aggressive spouses challenge even seasoned couple’s therapists. One partner over functions and the other under functions. Both become entrenched in this pattern. And the passive aggressive partner stubbornly resists your best insights and agreements for change. As conventional therapy often falls flat with this couple, I will do a demonstration showing you to stay out of the middle and create an unconventional leverage for change. Leave with a comprehensive framework for changing