Description:
Curiosity is the path to wonder. Most workshops focus on processes therapists can learn to help couples remove the constraints to the relationship they want. In this workshop, participants will learn about wonder as the ultimate quality of a thriving relationship and discover techniques that help intimate partners transition from judgment to curiosity and wonder.
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Hosted by the Milton H. Erickson Foundation; led by Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD.
Focused on “curiosity and wonder” as vital qualities in the relational space.
Emphasized the difference between Imago therapy and relationship education as part of a social movement.
Psychotherapy began with Freud’s individual-focused model.
The relational paradigm—rooted in quantum mechanics—views people as interconnected.
The couple, not the individual, is the core unit of human nature.
Negative interactions disrupt energy in the relational space between people.
Human beings are defined by connection; connecting is "being."
Curiosity and wonder are natural but are replaced by anxiety in conflict.
Therapy aims to restore curiosity and wonder through dialogue.
Wonder-based dialog shifts focus from “mirroring” to deeper inquiry.
Asking “Is there more about that?” deepens relational connection.
Genuine interest in others creates emotional safety and validation.
Wonder dialog helps express appreciation and see each other anew.
Participants practiced the wonder dialog in pairs.
Techniques included eye contact and mindful breathing to build connection.
Shared outcomes included feelings of gratitude, being seen, and emotional closeness.
Wonder activates the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex.
Integrating left and right brain functions enhances relational healing.
Neuroplasticity supports the development of connection through repeated practice.
Personal stories illustrated how brain-based shifts supported marital growth.
Introduced a pledge to eliminate negativity for 90 days.
Aims to shift relational energy and foster fast repair after conflict.
Participants were encouraged to sign the pledge as a relational commitment.
Seven steps to deepen relational wonder: acknowledge, accept, appreciate, admire, affirm, advocate, adore.
Encouraged to embrace and celebrate each partner’s “otherness.”
Workshop concluded with a call to bring curiosity and wonder into daily relationship life
Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality. Harville is co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy and co-founder of Imago Relationships International. Chancellor of the Imago International Institute and emeritus board member of IRI. Dr. Hendrix has received an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters from Mercer University, Macon, GA, the Distinguished Service Award from the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, and the Distinguished Contributors Award by the Association for Imago Relationship Therapy. His latest book, written with his wife, Helen Hunt, is Receiving Love.
Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality.