For the final class in the Utilization series, Patricia joins us to discuss her preference for being in control, and how that relates to her struggles with intimacy. She also requests help alleviating a psychosomatic response from an earlier trauma. Dr. Zeig uses an interpersonal approach to this session, utilizing verbal and body language techniques to help communicate complex concepts. Zeig establishes the theme of appreciate as the through-line for this session.
BT06 Workshop 04 - The Four Pillars of Relationship Change - Ellyn Bader, PhDDifficult couples challenge therapists with their aggressive interactions, their demands for intimacy, and the repetition of unyielding negative cycles. Dr. Bader will demonstrate how to use a developmental approach to target change in brief couples therapy by focusing on one of four pillars of change. Attendees will learn to take a strong leadership role so that clients change faster, with less conflict and more cooperation.
This workshop will introduce a new cognitive model for brief, solution-focused psychotherapy for couples. This cognitive paradigm is unique in several ways. It points to the fact that no one knows the client better than his/her intimate partner. The client’s partner pushes, pulls, and teases every imperfection of out their partner’s personality. Specifically, intimacy reveals what is incomplete about the client’s emotional development. It also reveals how effectively the client manages the needs he or she brings to the relationship. This is precisely what clients need to study themselves and points to what we as therapists can do to help our clients. With Robert Johansen, Ian Johansen and Todd Gaffnet.
Couples in distress minimize and numb their pain by avoiding contact. By writing a vision of what they both want, the therapist can focus the couple on the future. By combining Gestalt concepts with those popularized by Hendrix and others, therapists can have a powerful effect on quickening the healing process. New sessions will involve writing, note taking, and an agreed upon assignment to be practiced during the week. With Roberta Karant and Stefan Deutsch.
BT10 Workshop 28 - The Double Flame: Reconciling Intimacy and Sexuality - Esther Perel, MA, LMFT
This workshop probes the intricacies of love and desire—how they relate and how they conflict. Participants will learn how emotional intimacy can inhibit sexual desire and why “good intimacy” doesn’t necessarily make for “good sex.” Through case material and video vignettes, we’ll explore how our emotional history: “how we were loved” shapes our erotic blueprints and expresses itself in the physicality of sex: “how we make love”. We will show how to break through erotic impasses and help couples balance the dual needs for security and freedom. This model applies to couples and individuals from all sexual orientations.
BT12 Super Course 02 – Passion, Vitality and Intimacy: Integrating Attachment, Differentiation and Neuroscience – Ellyn Bader, PhD
Many partners crave intimacy or demand it, yet they fear the involvement that makes intimacy possible. Learn to use attachment theory, differentiation theory and neuroscience principles to lead your couples out of pain. Create sustained change with challenging issues such as infidelity, ongoing hostility, narcissism and pervasive conflict avoidance. Videotapes and clinical case examples will be used throughout the workshop.
Based on Perel’s Mating in Captivity, this bold take on intimacy and sex grapples with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our need for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. We will tackle eroticism as a quality of vitality in relationships extending far beyond mere sexuality and show how reconciling these two competing needs is at the heart of sustaining desire over time.
The presentation introduces a new, solution-focused model for treating individuals/couples. The model proposes specific and clear steps on how to differentiate types of love and how these impact intimacy. Participants will develop lasting strategies on how to effectively manage personal needs in the context of the intimate relationship.