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BT10 Workshop 28 - The Double Flame: Reconciling Intimacy and Sexuality - Esther Perel, MA, LMFT

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Couples Therapy |  Workshops |  Intimacy |  Sex and Sexuality
Brief Therapy Conference |  Brief Therapy Conference 2010
Esther Perel, MA, LMFT
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Dec 10, 2010
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This workshop probes the intricacies of love and desire—how they relate and how they conflict. Participants will learn how emotional intimacy can inhibit sexual desire and why “good intimacy” doesn’t necessarily make for “good sex.” Through case material and video vignettes, we’ll explore how our emotional history: “how we were loved” shapes our erotic blueprints and expresses itself in the physicality of sex: “how we make love”. We will show how to break through erotic impasses and help couples balance the dual needs for security and freedom. This model applies to couples and individuals from all sexual orientations.

Educational Objectives:

  1. Describe three ways that our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprints.
  2. Explain three interventions to unlock Erotic Blocks and cultivate eroticism in couples.
  3. Describe three reasons why more intimacy can lead to less sex.   

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*



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Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, translated into 25 languages. Fluent in nine of them, the Belgian native is a practicing psychotherapist, celebrated speaker and organizational consultant to Fortune 500 companies. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth. Her critically acclaimed viral TED Talks have collectively reached over 10 million viewers.