This keynote explores the incredibly powerful ways we can restore hope in the flat-lined couples we encounter—both in and out of our offices. Be inspired with new, 11th hour strategies for helping challenging couples want to work things out.
Marriage is bliss, they say, but it can also be a source of trauma. After an affair, how do couples move from hate and hurt to genuine forgiveness? How much work takes place inside the heart and mind of the hurt partner, and how much is earned through concrete steps taken by the unfaithful partner?
This address suggests that what is needed in the field of marital intervention is an empirically-based theory about the disasters and masters of marriage. The theory also is an integration of behavioral, object-relations, system and existential approaches to marriage. This theory is described and presented in this address.
One out of every three couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire---a formula for marital disaster. When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is oblivious, unconcerned, or uncaring, sex isn't the only casualty; a sense of emotional connection can also disappear. Helping couples bridge the desire gap can be challenging when one spouse appears unmotivated or lacks empathy. This speech presents a collaborative model for partners to work together to turn around the decline in their sex lives and reignite their emotional connection.