How do we forgive a partner who cheats, drinks, insults, abandons - and doesn't show a shred of remorse? This keynote will challenge common assumptions about what it means to forgive and will present a radical model that gives hurt parties the courage to forgive - and the freedom not to.
Clients often request changes in mood and perspective. Traditionally, changing mood and perspective is accomplished by educating clients about their patterns, encouraging them to change their behaviors and thoughts. But, experiential methods can be more immediately effective.
All art is, by definition "experiential." And altering mood and perspective is the point of it - whether drama, painting, literature, dance, or music. Movies use multilayered methods for change. The viewer is often unaware of the intricate dramatic, experiential methods that filmmakers use to exert influence.
Drawing upon 36 years of systematic multi-method longitudinal research with couples, Dr. Gottman teaches the differences between successful and unsuccessful couples in dealing with conflict and fostering romance and harmony. Dr. Gottman provides the basic clinical skills needed to help couples improve their relationships.
This presentation explores the biology and developmental psychology of love, sex, sexual orientation, commitment and marriage. Focus is on research and clinical applications.
Using a developmental lens is a powerful way to lead couples to make sustained change. Learn how developmental principles can help you assess what is wrong and then guide and shape your treatment decisions. Videotapes and clinical case examples will be used throughout the workshop to demonstrate how to challenge symbiosis, facilitate differentiation and build the capacities to sustain intimacy.
This workshop will introduce participants to some of the basics of Relational Life Therapy™, a truth-driven therapeutic approach. Participants will learn how to speak with radical precision and honesty to their clients about what they're doing to de-rail their relationships. You will learn how to "join through the truth" in a way that feels both profoundly respectful and compassionate while, at the same time, pulling no punches. We will look at gathering leverage, separating the person from their behavior, looking at the particular issues of grandiosity, and how to enlist a coalition with the adult part of the client.
The reason why most couples' characteristic fights never get resolved is because in our most heated moments, we stop fighting with each other. Core negative images (CNIs) start fighting and the two real partners get lost. This workshop teaches participants how to help partners identify, make explicit, accept, and ultimately work with one another's core negative images. As partners are taught to utilize each other's CNIs, rather than fight them, all sorts of creative and deliberating possibilities emerge.
Current research from the field of neurophysiology confirms the fact that permanent change involves treating the system as well as the symptom. Come learn a simple, yet impactful way to help couples break old patterns by forming new ones. Lecture, demonstration, video and experiential exercise will be used.