Drawing upon 36 years of systematic multi-method longitudinal research with couples, Dr. Gottman teaches the differences between successful and unsuccessful couples in dealing with conflict and fostering romance and harmony. Dr. Gottman provides the basic clinical skills needed to help couples improve their relationships.
This presentation explores the biology and developmental psychology of love, sex, sexual orientation, commitment and marriage. Focus is on research and clinical applications.
Using a developmental lens is a powerful way to lead couples to make sustained change. Learn how developmental principles can help you assess what is wrong and then guide and shape your treatment decisions. Videotapes and clinical case examples will be used throughout the workshop to demonstrate how to challenge symbiosis, facilitate differentiation and build the capacities to sustain intimacy.
This workshop will introduce participants to some of the basics of Relational Life Therapy™, a truth-driven therapeutic approach. Participants will learn how to speak with radical precision and honesty to their clients about what they're doing to de-rail their relationships. You will learn how to "join through the truth" in a way that feels both profoundly respectful and compassionate while, at the same time, pulling no punches. We will look at gathering leverage, separating the person from their behavior, looking at the particular issues of grandiosity, and how to enlist a coalition with the adult part of the client.
The reason why most couples' characteristic fights never get resolved is because in our most heated moments, we stop fighting with each other. Core negative images (CNIs) start fighting and the two real partners get lost. This workshop teaches participants how to help partners identify, make explicit, accept, and ultimately work with one another's core negative images. As partners are taught to utilize each other's CNIs, rather than fight them, all sorts of creative and deliberating possibilities emerge.
Current research from the field of neurophysiology confirms the fact that permanent change involves treating the system as well as the symptom. Come learn a simple, yet impactful way to help couples break old patterns by forming new ones. Lecture, demonstration, video and experiential exercise will be used.
We're taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. But, is this true? The presenter will spell out concrete strategies for helping hurt parties get healthy, including overcoming their bitter preoccupation with the unrepentant offender, de-shaming the injury, and making peace with the past - all without forgiving.
Couples who appear warm and friendly can be deceptively difficult. They fear intensity, anger and deep involvement. We will focus on principles for managing sessions, core competencies required in the therapist, and what it takes to support each partner's development to enable more intimacy and sexuality.
This workshop will give you a language to help hurt parties normalize the profound sense of psychological loss they experience after an affair. It also will spell our exactly what unfaithful partners can do to earn forgiveness and what hurt partners can do to help foster forgiveness.
The story of intimacy and sexuality in committed modern couples is one that often tells of dwindling desire and includes a long list of sexual alibis, claiming to explain the inescapable weakening of erotic connection. The absence of fantasy, the proliferation of pornography and affairs, as well as a lack of understanding of the nature of erotic desire all contribute to the depression, loneliness and despair. In this workshop we will probe the intricacies of love and desire. Through case examples and video vignettes, Ms. Perel will introduce innovative strategies for partners to take emotional risks when negotiating their dual needs for connection and autonomy, predictability and passion. This model applies to young, old, married and not, heterosexual and same sex couples.