The reason why most couples' characteristic fights never get resolved is because in our most heated moments, we stop fighting with each other. Core negative images (CNIs) start fighting and the two real partners get lost. This workshop teaches participants how to help partners identify, make explicit, accept, and ultimately work with one another's core negative images. As partners are taught to utilize each other's CNIs, rather than fight them, all sorts of creative and deliberating possibilities emerge.
Current research from the field of neurophysiology confirms the fact that permanent change involves treating the system as well as the symptom. Come learn a simple, yet impactful way to help couples break old patterns by forming new ones. Lecture, demonstration, video and experiential exercise will be used.
We're taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. But, is this true? The presenter will spell out concrete strategies for helping hurt parties get healthy, including overcoming their bitter preoccupation with the unrepentant offender, de-shaming the injury, and making peace with the past - all without forgiving.
One in three couples experience a sexual desire gap, a difference leads to infidelity or divorce. Additionally, the compelling statistic that one out of ten couples has a sexless marriage makes it apparent why so many couples are losing touch. Learn how to help couples bring passion back into marriage. Also, learn how to help couples heal from infidelity.
This workshop will offer a guide to understanding the inter-personal pattern of violent interactions. whether they may be between couples, parents and children, friends or co-workers. Effective strategies such as using positive questions, reframing comments, tasks, rituals and hypnotic procedures will be discussed.
High conflict and chronically distresses add to each others’ trauma while triggering historical trauma. Reducing, calming or eliminating the emotional triggers is an essential part of changing their negative ingrained patterns. See a live demonstration and/or experience a process to bring about immediate relief of painful memories (and sometimes) not even having to talk about them.
Is our brain built for love or war, connection or self-preservation? The attachment drive for a secure base involves neurological and neuro-endocrine systems and subsystems that determine such things as proximity seeking and contact maintenance. Couples most commonly enter therapy due to repeated, anticipated, and intense periods of mutual dysregulation whereby attachment injuries and adaptations become reanimated. In order to make the most of attachment theory, the psychotherapist must incorporate a working knowledge of the neurobiological processes that underlie all primary attachment relationships.