This advanced workshop is designed to demonstrate core concepts of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Participants will Increase their skills in the Initiator-Inquirer process and in effective confrontation and incisive resolution of intrapsychic conflicts. Join Ellyn Bader and learn how to make developmental assists, strengthen your confrontation skills and promote couples development.
Everybody lies. Some lies are loving and harmless. But, others are enormously destructive. Couples’ patterns of deception often begin innocently but end in couples destroying the love they once had. Self- deception, conflict avoidance and felony lies all undermine commitment and connection. Learn to identify and disrupt deception, confront evasiveness and hypocrisy and facilitate differentiation.
While confrontation is often the best way to help clients examine their contribution to a problem, many therapists feels anxious about the tension aroused during confrontation. Leam to employ confrontation in couples work with special emphasis on matching the intensity of the confrontation- gentle to tough- with the level of impasse. The focus will be on how to select what to confront, when to confront, and how to build a confrontation over time. You will leave this session with a firmer grasp of the attitude and posture necessary to use confrontation more effectively in your work.
The repair process is a detailed formula for helping someone in a state of hurt or frustration move back into satisfactory connection. The process begins with the speaker, teaching the distressed person how to use the feedback wheel- a fourstep prescription for speaking that is effective and clean. Then we tum to the skills of listening and responding, laying out techniques of radical generosity-a sophisticated way to understand your partner's experience and respond to it in the most responsible, (and disarming) manner.
Difficult couples challenge therapists with their aggressive interactions, their demands for intimacy and their high levels of sensitivity to any confrontation. Dr. Bader will demonstrate how to start and sustain positive momentum with these high distress couples. Participants will discover how to create a context for change that uses four pillars to anchor all sessions. Participants will learn to make strong confrontations, take a firm leadership role and more smoothly interweave intra-psychic and systemic interventions. Video, role-play and clinical transcripts will all be used to demonstrate these principles.
Couples therapy with challenging partners is a therapy of confrontation. You must be proficient at the nuances of gentle and forceful, but effective confrontation. You must oversee and control the confrontation between your clients, to ensure that it remains productive and positive. Learn to confront the partners, help partners confront each other, and manage yourself when they challenge you.
Robert and Mary Goulding (1985), working as cotherapists, demonstrate using five volunteer clients. The concerns of each individual are addressed during the therapy session. The Gouldings help define each person’s goals and establish a contract for change. The session includes role-play, fantasy, confrontation and the use of humor.