This presentation will propose a diagnostic assessment of the couple, specifying their conflicts at the level of their sexual life, their integration of expectations regarding daily living together, and potential discrepancies regarding their value systems, including their overall social integration. On this basis, a diagnostic assessment of unconscious reactivation in both partners of unresolved conflicts in their relation with their parental couples may determine the strategy of therapeutic interventions.
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Conflicts of identity most often show up in the form of a struggle between our idealized self (ego) and the shadow it necessarily creates. This struggle shows up as an inner conflict or dilemma of some sort. This demonstration will show how to go beyond conflicts created by bipolar thinking using the Buddhist mindfulness process of the "tetra lemma."
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Couples, because they come from different background and have different understandings, often use the same words to mean different things, leading to unnecessary conflict. This workshop will provide a simple, but powerful method to quickly resolve couples conflicts using action talk.
In the old way of thinking, stressed couples were depicted as a failed communication system of interacting pathologies that could be improved by therapists dispensing conflict resolution skills. In the new way of thinking, couples are the source of mutual healing and the fulcrum for social transformation. This lecture will discuss how that shift occurred and its implications, not only for the happiness of couples, but for the relational well-being of society.
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Too little acknowledgment will lead to alienation of one of both partners in couples therapy, but too much acknowledgment without a compelling invitation to move on from conflict, blame and the past to new possibilities won’t work either. Learn how to maintain that delicate balance and let the couple teach you when to use which method.
Couples therapy typically pathologizes porn use while legitimizing the grievances of the user’s partner. While this approach may seem logical, it rarely increases sexual/relationship satisfaction. How do we hold both partners while they struggle to define their behavior, contract, and emotions? This talk examines a different approach to intrapsychic conflict and power struggles over porn use. We’ll explore underlying rela-tional issues, including: Is conflict about pornography a way to avoid confronting defi-cits in the sexual (or non-sexual) relationship? Are one or both partners acting out body image issues? Is porn use infidelity?
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Lerner will describe the key aspects of having a clear and courageous voice with a difficult partner when a relationship is stuck in silence, fighting, distance, and blame.
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The Atone-Attune-Attach model of couples’ therapy for healing from a revealed extra-relationship affair, with secrecy deception is described. Each of the three phases has 4 objectives. The roles of conflict avoidance and self-disclosure avoidance are discussed, as well as the Gottman-Rapoport conflict blueprint. To deal with attachment injuries and regrettable past incidents, the Gottman Recovery Kit is described. The Gottman-Rusbult-Glass cascade forms the basic theory for this therapy. The roles of cherishing and gratitude versus trashing and betrayal are discussed, as well as the theory of attunement and trust, and CL-ALT and betrayal.
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In this workshop, we will look at fantasy as an ingenious way our creative mind overcomes all sorts of relational and intra psychic conflicts around desire and intimacy. Therapists can help clients develop a view of fantasy as a narrative that creates a safe space to experience the pleasure that can invigorate their loving relation-ships. They will decipher the meaning of sexual fantasies, approaching them more as dreams or complex symbolic structures than as literal narratives of secret intentions.
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This course will present concrete tools and methods of hypnosis to help couples end their habitual conflict escalation. Participants will learn the impact of affect dysregulation on relationships, client-friendly tools to enhance intimacy and connection, and how to rehearse and transfer skills from therapy to real life