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CC12 Workshop 15 – Healing Couples From the Betrayal of an Affair - John Gottman, PhD

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Workshops |  Affairs |  Couples Therapy |  Attachment |  Attunement |  Conflict |  Gottman Method
Couples Conference |  Couples Conference 2012
John Gottman, PhD
Course Levels:
Master Degree or Higher in Health-Related Field
Audio and Video
Original Program Date:
Apr 29, 2012
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The Atone-Attune-Attach model of couples’ therapy for healing from a revealed extra-relationship affair, with secrecy deception is described. Each of the three phases has 4 objectives. The roles of conflict avoidance and self-disclosure avoidance are discussed, as well as the Gottman-Rapoport conflict blueprint. To deal with at-tachment injuries and regrettable past incidents, the Gottman Re-covery Kit is described. The Gottman-Rusbult-Glass cascade forms the basic theory for this therapy. The roles of cherishing and grati-tude versus trashing and betrayal are discussed, as well as the theory of attunement and trust, and CL-ALT and betrayal.

Educational Objectives:

  1. Participants will be able to describe the role of conflict in trust and betrayal.
  2. Participants will be able to describe the role of CL-ALT in the cascade toward betrayal.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*



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John Gottman, PhD, was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. Dr. Gottman is a professor emeritus in psychology known for his work on marital stability and relationship analysis through scientific direct observations, many of which were published in peer-reviewed literature. He is the author or co-author of over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love Last; The Relationship Cure; Why Marriages Succeed or Fail; and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, among many others.