Gridlocked perpetual conflicts often destroy relationships. They repeatedly surface, causing partners endless pain, fear, even trauma. Yet every couple faces them. In this address, Dr. Julie Gottman describes a dyadic therapy method that uncloaks the dreams, history and fears beneath partners’ issues while fostering greater compassion and connection in the couple. An edited film will be shown to demonstrate this intervention.
Couples’ conflicts that hurt and go unprocessed often lead to chasms of emotional distance. This workshop explains and demonstrates with film how a couple can learn to process their own battles and move from resentment to understanding, accountability, and repair. The Gottman “Recovery Kit” will be explained and given to each participant.
The reason why most couples' characteristic fights never get resolved is because in our most heated moments, we stop fighting with each other. Core negative images (CNIs) start fighting and the two real partners get lost. This workshop teaches participants how to help partners identify, make explicit, accept, and ultimately work with one another's core negative images. As partners are taught to utilize each other's CNIs, rather than fight them, all sorts of creative and deliberating possibilities emerge.
High conflict and chronically distresses add to each others’ trauma while triggering historical trauma. Reducing, calming or eliminating the emotional triggers is an essential part of changing their negative ingrained patterns. See a live demonstration and/or experience a process to bring about immediate relief of painful memories (and sometimes) not even having to talk about them.
This workshop will explore the assessment of the functioning of couples in their sexual life, their daily interactions, and their individual and jointly arrived at value systems. The techniques of this assessment, the combination of couples’ and individual partners’ interviews will be followed by an overview of alternative therapeutic strategies.
Inevitable conflict, the second stage of all committed relationships, is growth "trying to happen." This session will address core issues most couples face, working with difficult couples, how to transform destructive conflict into creative tension through the dialogue process and how to discern when a couple can or cannot be helped. Participants will be introduced to a therapy process that transforms conflict into connection and facilitates couples being healers for each other.
Scientific research on marriage will be reviewed to answer two questions: What is dysfunctional when a marriage is failing, and what is functional when a marriage is working well? Myths and misconceptions about these questions will be discussed. Research findings will be reviewed to derive two checklists. Although checklists are helpful, they are not fully adequate. To assess a marriage and to intervene we need theory, which will be delineated.
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Strategies developed in cognitive therapy of depression are readily applied to couples' problems. Assessment of conflicting perspectives, thinking disorder, escalation of distortions and cognitive interference with communication. Reducing hostility, reinforcing pleasure, increasing collaboration and improving sexual satisfaction through cognitive interventions.