All of Milton Erickson’s cases are based in utilization. It is an “alchemical formula” of turning lead into gold. Utilization is not a technique; it is an orientation that the therapist assumes. Utilization is an orientation of sufficiency that is the opposite of psychological problems, which can be viewed as believed in insufficiencies.
Most “grief work” involves expressing grief fully, or saying “goodbye” to the lost person, neither of which resolves the feeling of loss. Full resolution reconnects with the treasured felt experience of the lost person, using it as a positive resource to move forward and reengage the world in the present.
Based on Perel’s Mating in Captivity, this bold take on intimacy and sex grapples with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our need for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. We will tackle eroticism as a quality of vitality in relationships extending far beyond mere sexuality and show how reconciling these two competing needs is at the heart of sustaining desire over time.