BT10 Workshop 28 - The Double Flame: Reconciling Intimacy and Sexuality - Esther Perel, MA, LMFT
This workshop probes the intricacies of love and desire—how they relate and how they conflict. Participants will learn how emotional intimacy can inhibit sexual desire and why “good intimacy” doesn’t necessarily make for “good sex.” Through case material and video vignettes, we’ll explore how our emotional history: “how we were loved” shapes our erotic blueprints and expresses itself in the physicality of sex: “how we make love”. We will show how to break through erotic impasses and help couples balance the dual needs for security and freedom. This model applies to couples and individuals from all sexual orientations.
Attachment, trauma, sexual compulsivity, performance anxiety and community norms make gay sex tricky. Addressing this with clients is difficult too. This workshop defines sexual norms for gay men and teaches interventions and hypnosis scripts to maximize brief treatment.
This workshop examines the cultural pressures that shape domesticated sex and the puzzling inverse correlation between greater emotional intimacy and the loss of sexual desire. It will demonstrate how to help couples draw pleasure from the hidden, the suggestive and the uncanny while also respecting their needs for safety and stability. Using case examples, we will explore how to grant the body its profound capacities for communicating in its own language.
Couples who appear warm and friendly can be deceptively difficult. They fear intensity, anger and deep involvement. We will focus on principles for managing sessions, core competencies required in the therapist, and what it takes to support each partner's development to enable more intimacy and sexuality.
This workshop probes the intricacies of love and desire—how they relate and how they conflict.. Participants will learn how emotional intimacy can inhibit sexual desire and why “good intimacy” doesn’t necessarily make for “good sex.” Through case material and video vignettes, we’ll explore how our emotional history: “how we were loved” shapes our erotic blueprints and expresses itself in the physicality of sex: “how we make love”. We will show how to break through erotic impasses and help couples balance the dual needs for security and freedom. This model applies to couples and individuals from all sexual orientations.
Based on Perel’s Mating in Captivity, this bold take on intimacy and sex grapples with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. We will tackle eroticism as a quality of aliveness and vitality in relationships extending far beyond mere sexuality and consider how the need for secure attachment and closeness can co-exist with the quest for individuality and freedom.
Price:
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Perhaps the single most discussed issue in couple therapy is sex. This two-hour workshop will lead clinicians through a series of interviewing techniques for examining sexual problems in couples. These techniques include questions to ask, assessment of explicit and implicit somatic answers, and other strategic, bottom- up methods for getting to the crux of the matter. We will also cover typical difficulties many therapists have with frank sexual questioning. We’ll examine attach- ment orga
Working online has led some therapists to feel more cautious about working with sexual issues. The panelists will describe their unique approaches and concomitant pitfalls. Benefits and liabilities will be addressed.
Through podcasts and experiential exercises we will demonstrate clinical work around sexuality and intimacy with couples.
Educational Objectives:
Identify common blocks to eroticism including the fear of abandonment or entrapment, as well as how our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprint.
Describe three strategies to help couples cultivate eroticism and bring a greater sense of aliveness to their relationship.
Price:
$29.00Base Price - $59.00 Sale is $29.00price reduced from Base Price - $59.00