There are six core personality adaptations that form the basic building blocks of personality. These are schizoid, paranoid, antisocial, passive-aggressive, obsessive-compulsive and histrionic. Each of these has a specific way (feeling, thinking, or behavior) of making contact with the world, a target area for growth and change, and a trap area where the person has the greatest defenses. By knowing this information, the therapist can quickly establish rapport, target interventions to the area that will produce the greatest change, and avoid getting trapped in the client's defenses. This workshop will look at these six core adaptations, how they develop, and how to work most effectively with each one.
The classic passive-aggressive person is a help-rejecting complainer who will not follow through with carefully crafted agreements and seems to be immune to targeted insights. They often end up with a despairing partner.
Overtly angry and passive-aggressive partners often present the most difficulty for therapists. They frequently demand intimacy, while being unable to create the conditions for intimacy to occur or be sustained. They require a high level of activity from you to structure treatment, manage hostility in the office and confront hypocrisies that keep their development stalled. Learn to increase your personal strengths to harness the enormous developmental potential that exists in these couples.
Passive aggressive spouses challenge even seasoned couple’s therapists. One partner over functions and the other under functions. Both become entrenched in this pattern. And the passive aggressive partner stubbornly resists your best insights and agreements for change. As conventional therapy often falls flat with this couple, I will do a demonstration showing you to stay out of the middle and create an unconventional leverage for change. Leave with a comprehensive framework for changing