CC17 Workshop 11 - The “Deal Breaker”: Detection and Intervention - Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
The PACT therapist is always moving couples toward secure functioning. A deal breaker is a conflict between partners for which there is no workable solution. Deal- breakers lead partners to a dead-end and therefore threaten the existence of the relationship. The couples therapist must play the long game as partners almost always are playing the short game. To them, facing a deal-breaker squarely triggers fear of loss, and so it is avoided. If secure functioning is to be a therapeutic goal, the couples therapist has a duty to keep partners from bending reality and avoiding deal-breakers. In this two-hour workshop, attendees will learn how to detect large and small deal-breakers and how to apply a well-defined process for guiding the couple toward dissolving the deal-breaker for good.
● List at least three examples of deal-breakers
● Identify, amplify, and work through deal-breakers
● Apply at least three interventions for dealing with deal-breakers
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT®). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.