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BT16 Conversation Hour 07 - Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT


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Topic Areas:
Conversation Hours |  Brief Therapy |  Attachment |  Couples Therapy |  Therapeutic Process
Categories:
Brief Therapy Conference |  Brief Therapy Conference 2016 |  Pioneers in Couples and Family Therapy
Faculty:
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Duration:
1:00:17
Format:
Audio Only
Original Program Date:
Dec 10, 2016
License:
Never Expires.



Description

Description:

Educational Objectives:

  1. Learn the philosophies of various practitioners and theorists.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

Outline:

Introduction and Overview of Stan Tatkin's Work

  • Introduced at the 2016 Milton H. Erickson Foundation’s Brief Therapy Conference.

  • Tatkin references his book Wired for Love and his polytheoretical background (systems, psychoanalytic, social justice, attachment).

  • Emphasizes fairness, justice, and sensitivity in therapy.

Insecure and Secure Attachment Models

  • Insecure models are unjust, unfair, and insensitive psychological systems.

  • Distancing group: self-focused, appearance/performance-oriented.

  • Clinging group: emotionally regulates a parent.

  • These may lead to personality traits but don’t qualify as self-disorders.

  • Tatkin integrates infant/adult attachment, arousal regulation, and neurobiology.

Secure Functioning and Therapeutic Stance

  • Secure functioning = two-person system built on fairness, justice, and sensitivity.

  • Prohibits lying, addiction, and mismanagement of "thirds" (e.g., substances, outsiders).

  • The system is prioritized for mutual survival, protection, and support.

Developmental Models and PACT Approach

  • PACT = Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy.

  • Combines structure with improvisation like jazz; grounded in development and neurobiology.

  • Therapist aims to foster secure functioning using a dynamic, intersubjective approach.

Arousal Regulation and Confrontation

  • Arousal regulation begins postnatally and shapes responses throughout life.

  • Couples may be skewed toward high or low arousal states.

  • Therapists confront maladaptive behaviors, not the self.

  • “Going down the middle” = equal confrontation of both partners to create balance.

Challenges with Distancing and Clinging Partners

  • Distancers avoid vulnerability; need gentle confrontation focusing on their pain and defense.

  • Clingers often resist self-activation; need help mobilizing and asserting themselves.

  • Cross-tracking keeps both partners engaged and responsive.

Case Demonstration and Practical Techniques

  • Demonstrates live case using cross-tracking and equal engagement of partners.

  • Therapist gathers info about one partner from the other to support mutual understanding.

  • Emphasizes non-blaming, alliance-building, and targeting behaviors (not identity).

Conclusion and Final Thoughts

  • Therapists must frequently rebalance the dynamic to prevent dominance.

  • The goal is secure functioning and collaborative support between partners.

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Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT®). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.


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