Description:
This workshop focuses on identifying core beliefs and themes in couples and families that are constraining change. Creative use of the interview and interventions, including symbols, metaphors, language, fantasies and rituals to point a direction for change will be demonstrated.
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Introduction & Theme of Beliefs
Focus on how individual beliefs shape problems, relationships, and therapy.
Example themes: relationship traps, achievement expectations, illness and attention.
Themes link to family patterns and are often hidden or implicit.
Developing Themes
Listen for metaphorical language and observe family interactions.
Use slogans to clearly summarize themes (e.g., "balancing scales of justice," "most sick is most loved").
Explore themes across generations using tools like Genograms.
Case Example: Drinking Problem
Couple struggles with husband's drinking and wife's rescuing behaviors.
Identify family myths reinforcing behaviors (e.g., “not worth dying for”).
Therapy challenges beliefs, leading wife to self-care, reducing husband's dependency.
Relapse & Recovery
Husband initially relapses; wife learns to stop rescuing.
Addressing husband's relationship with his mother resolves deeper issues.
Couple achieves lasting improvement, ending therapy successfully.
Practical Therapy Considerations
Importance of focusing therapy on central themes, rather than scattered issues.
Addressing medication, billing, and use of consultation teams.
Working with Addiction
Emphasis on systemic approach, integrating individual with family context.
Tailored treatment depending on stage and nature of addiction.
Family Dynamics & Individual Behavior
Understanding family roles helps resolve persistent individual problems.
Example: resolving mother-son relationship significantly reduces drinking.
Engaging Clients & Equal Support
Balancing attention equally in couple therapy ensures both partners feel understood.
Strategies include addressing shared history and personal grievances.
Themes, Life Scripts, and Gender Roles
Gender stereotypes (women as caretakers, men as irresponsible) reinforced by family systems.
Identifying and challenging these scripts promotes empowerment and change.
Handling Difficult Cases & Cultural Nuances
Therapists must be mindful of resistance, abusive dynamics, and missed cues.
Importance of cultural awareness, including language and behavior patterns.
Brief Therapy & Interventions
Most effective therapy often short-term (under 12 sessions).
Paradoxical interventions (using humor, exaggeration) can effectively disrupt unhelpful patterns
PEGGY PAPP, A.C.S.W., is a therapist in private practice and Co-Director of the Brief Therapy Project at the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy in New York City. She is recipient of the lifetime achievement award from the American Family Therapy Association and the award for distinguished contribution to Marital Family Therapy from the American Association for Marital and Family Therapy. Her latest book is Couples On the Fault Line.