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EP17 Workshop 03 - Safe Conversations: From the Clinic to the Public to IMAGO - Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD


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Topic Areas:
Workshops |  Couples Therapy |  IMAGO |  Psychotherapy |  Relationships |  Conflict
Bundle(s):
EP17 Full Con Audio Download Bundle 2020
Categories:
Evolution of Psychotherapy |  Evolution of Psychotherapy 2017 |  Pioneers in Couples and Family Therapy
Faculty:
Harville Hendrix, PhD |  Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
Course Levels:
Master Degree or Higher in Health-Related Field
Duration:
2:44:25
Format:
Audio Only
Original Program Date:
Dec 13, 2017
License:
Never Expires.



Description

Description:

The benefits of therapy tend to be confined to the clinic and to targeted clients with specific complaints. This workshop describes the process and outcome of distributing--face to face and through social media--the core therapeutic processes to the general public. Participants will experience the structure and process of a Safe Conversation, a relational psychoeducational process, the strategies and tactics of cultural healing and invited to join in developing a relational culture.

Educational Objectives:

  1. List the four transformative processes that can be distributed to the general public.
  2. Demonstrate the process of a Safe Conversation.
  3. Describe and illustrate a relational competency.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

 

Outline:

 

Introduction and Workshop Overview

  • Michael Munion introduces Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, noting their “Relationships First” initiative in Dallas.

  • Workshop goal: bring therapeutic tools to the broader public to increase relational competence.

Origin and Impact of “Relationships First”

  • Originated in Dallas to help underserved communities; translated and simplified for accessibility.

  • Now reached 500,000+ people in 175 countries.

  • Focuses on applying safe conversation techniques outside of clinical settings.

Workshop Kickoff and Exercises

  • Participants engage in eye contact and affirmations (“You are wonderful”) to shift from problems to potential.

  • Emphasis on structured, experiential learning through practice and demonstration.

The Human Need for Connection

  • Harville discusses how children lose wonder due to emotional disconnection.

  • Video demonstrates infants’ emotional responses to interaction and neglect.

  • Joy and aliveness are found in relational, not solitary, experiences.

Conflict and Growth in Relationships

  • Helen reframes conflict as a sign of potential transformation.

  • Couples aren’t mismatched—they’re primed for growth.

  • Advocates for pre-marriage relational education.

Safe Conversations Technique

  • Emphasis on safety, structured talk, and sentence stems for mirroring and validation.

  • “Make an appointment” before difficult conversations to create a safe space.

  • Participants practice dialoguing about early childhood challenges.

Childhood Impact on Adult Relationships

  • Participants use a chart to identify early wounds and needs.

  • Practice sharing these insights with partners using the safe conversation process.

Reflections and Participant Feedback

  • Many find the process simple yet emotionally impactful.

  • Positive energy and structured format help bring clarity to deep emotional needs.

Scripting and Brain Rewiring

  • Scripting helps rewire the brain through repeated relational patterns.

  • Structure reduces anxiety and supports internalizing new communication habits.

Needs, Wounds, and Romantic Patterns

  • Childhood experiences shape unconscious expectations in relationships.

  • We often seek partners who resemble early caretakers to repair emotional wounds.

Romantic Love and Power Struggles

  • After initial romantic connection, couples enter a power struggle phase.

  • Growth comes from resolving this conflict between closeness and independence.

Defenses: Hailstorm vs. Turtle

  • Hailstorms (maximizers) talk to connect; turtles (minimizers) retreat for safety.

  • Understanding these patterns promotes empathy and relationship balance.

Paradigm Shift: Individual to Relational

  • A new paradigm sees humans as fundamentally connected beings.

  • Rooted in quantum mechanics, this view prioritizes “the space between” over individual psychology.

The Brain and Relationships

  • Three-part brain: lower (reactive), middle (emotional), upper (thinking).

  • Relationships improve when couples learn to access the upper, reflective brain.

Zero Negativity and Affirmations

  • Zero negativity = no put-downs.

  • Replace criticism with curiosity and daily affirmations to build safety and trust.

Frustration and Behavior Change Requests

  • Process includes naming frustration, tracing its roots, and making specific requests.

  • Demonstrated live with practical, step-by-step guidance.

Power of Presence

  • Presence is vital for healing and connection.

  • Small daily acts of full attention can repair emotional disconnect and deepen intimacy.

Closing and Resources

  • Recap of key ideas: safety, empathy, presence, affirmations, structured dialog.

  • Shared links to Imago therapy and “Relationships First” tools.

  • Session closes with a song celebrating mutual support and connection

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Harville Hendrix, PhD's Profile

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Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality. Harville is co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy and co-founder of Imago Relationships International. Chancellor of the Imago International Institute and emeritus board member of IRI. Dr. Hendrix has received an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters from Mercer University, Macon, GA, the Distinguished Service Award from the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, and the Distinguished Contributors Award by the Association for Imago Relationship Therapy. His latest book, written with his wife, Helen Hunt, is Receiving Love


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Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality.


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