EP05 Clinical Demonstration 07 - Advances in Strategic Therapy - Cloe Madanes, Lic. Psychol.; Co-Faculty: Anthony Robbins

Description:

Educational Objectives:

1. To name two strategies for therapy.
2. To list three important questions to ask in therapy. 

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

Outline:

Introduction and Participant Background

• Cloe Madanes introduces Susanna and Ollie, a married couple of 10 years with children from previous marriages.

• Main issue: tension over Ollie’s spending habits despite a generally strong relationship.

• Ollie spends freely on gifts for family and sometimes strangers, which causes resentment from her husband.

Money Spending Habits

• Ollie supports her adult son and admits to spending for emotional reasons.

• Her husband feels punished and frustrated by this behavior.

Root Cause of Tension: Need for Attention

• Ollie considers her spending might be a bid for attention.

• Anthony Robbins introduces the idea of feminine energy requiring ongoing attention.

• Ollie’s husband realizes her spending may be a way of seeking connection, not punishment.

Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy

• Anthony explains that feminine energy seeks constant affirmation and love.

• Reframes Ollie’s behavior as a call for attention rather than defiance.

• Husband agrees to respond with affection instead of frustration.

Reframing the Relationship Dynamic

• Anthony encourages Ollie’s husband to give Ollie more attention.

• He agrees to try and see if this reduces conflict.

Passion and Intimacy

• Anthony explores their intimacy: Ollie rates passion as 9/10 when she feels loved; her husband rates his at 6–7.

• He agrees to be more expressive in showing love and passion.

Generosity and Emotional Needs

• Chloe asks if Ollie gives love as freely as money—Ollie admits she could do more.

• Husband confesses to feeling jealous when Ollie gives to others, suggesting a need for her attention.

Challenges with Son’s Drug Addiction

• Cloe and Anthony discuss the husband's son, a drug addict.

• His pain over the situation affects the couple’s dynamic.

• Cloe encourages unconditional love toward the son, and Ollie agrees to try supporting him emotionally.

Emotional Breathing Exercise

• Anthony leads Ollie in a heart-focused breathing exercise.

• She feels more connected and able to give love unconditionally—especially toward her stepson.

Final Commitments

• Husband commits to being more loving and present.

• Ollie commits to showing more love, especially toward her stepson.

• Cloe and Anthony thank the couple for their openness and willingness to grow.