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CC09 Keynote 04 - My Favorite Couples in Therapy - Cloe Madanes, Lic Psic, HDL


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Topic Areas:
Keynotes |  Couples Therapy |  Family Therapy |  Addiction |  Brief Therapy |  Humor |  Strategic Therapy
Categories:
Couples Conference |  Couples Conference 2009
Faculty:
Cloe Madanes, HDL, LIC
Duration:
54:58
Format:
Audio Only
Original Program Date:
May 02, 2009
License:
Never Expires.



Description

Description:

Madanes will tell her favorite stories of therapy with difficult couples.

Educational Objectives:

  1. To describe three ways of approaching couple’s therapy.
  2. To list three ways of intervening with extended families in couples’ therapy.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

Outline:

  • Case: Incompatible Couple

    • Married 20 years, therapy for 20 years, constant fight about taking out the garbage.

    • Cloe avoided the garbage topic and focused on the husband’s chronic lateness.

    • Solution: he paid his wife for each minute late; she used the money to buy pretty, trivial things.

    • Result: improved punctuality and relationship dynamics.

  • Case: Therapist with a Sick Husband

    • Husband’s heart condition worsened with poor eating habits.

    • Wife received money every time he ate something unhealthy; she shopped to cope with her anxiety.

    • Result: husband’s weight stabilized, no heart attack.

  • Case: Dominatrix Affair

    • Husband unrepentantly seeing a dominatrix; wife devastated.

    • Cloe suggested the wife manage his dominatrix appointments.

    • Turns out the dominatrix was an aerobics instructor; the novelty wore off.

  • Case: Cocaine Addiction

    • Lawyer addicted to cocaine; wife (also his secretary) told to act crazy on calls from suspicious people.

    • Husband submitted to drug tests; wife received a reward if he tested positive.

    • Result: family survived; office functioned better.

  • Case: Therapist’s Infidelity

    • Wife discovered affair during pregnancy.

    • She demanded reparation; he quit his own therapy so she could start analysis.

    • Result: symbolic trade-off helped them recover.

  • Case: Fondling Intervention

    • Couple with physical conflict was told to fondle each other in therapy.

    • Shifted energy into playful sexuality.

    • Therapy ended positively.

  • Creating Good Memories

    • Diabetic wife and grumpy husband asked to recall best memories together.

    • Initially struggled, then built new memories.

    • Result: relationship and health improved.

  • Establishing Couple Boundaries

    • Cloe encouraged couples to show closeness in front of parents (e.g., joking about intimacy).

    • Helped reinforce couple identity apart from their family of origin.

  • Case: Divorce and Anorexic Teen

    • 15-year-old girl stopped eating; divorced parents were in conflict.

    • Father instructed to end his war with ex-wife and show support.

    • Result: girl resumed eating and recovered.

  • Cloe ends by reaffirming her goal to prevent divorce and support marriages.

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Cloé Madanes, HDL, LIC, is a world-renowned innovator and teacher of family and strategic therapy and one of the originators of the strategic approach to family therapy. She has authored seven books that are classics in the field: Strategic Family Therapy; Behind the One-Way Mirror; Sex, Love and Violence; The Violence of Men; The Secret Meaning of Money; The Therapist as Humanist, Social Activist and Systemic Thinker; and Relationship Breakthrough. She has presented her work at professional conferences all over the world and has given keynote addresses for The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference, the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy; the National Association of Social Workers, The Erickson Foundation, the California Psychological Association and many other national and international conferences. Madanes has won several awards for distinguished contribution to psychology and has counseled outstanding individuals from all walks of life.


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