Description:
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Joseph Campbell & Cultural Dynamics in Relationships
Cloe Madanes begins the discussion with group seating and invites participation.
A participant references Joseph Campbell and questions cultural differences in mate selection (e.g., arranged vs. chosen marriages).
Cloe shares insights from Esther Perel’s workshop and emphasizes adapting concepts to therapeutic practice.
Arranged Marriages & Cultural Sensitivity
Cloe describes an Indian family where the daughter accepted an arranged marriage.
Stresses being a culture-free therapist who validates clients' values.
Mentions polygamy as a practical solution in some cultural contexts.
Encourages therapists to be heroic and creative, especially in challenging cases.
Exercise on Indirect Negotiation
Cloe introduces an exercise with two participants holding opposing views (e.g., about President Bush).
Guides them to explore personal histories and hardships behind their perspectives.
Emphasizes empathy, internal negotiation, and emotional insight in resolving conflict.
Real-Life Applications & Archetype Roleplay
Participants role-play archetypes (warrior, magician, lover, king) to build understanding.
Cloe underscores listening deeply and evoking compassion.
Cites work with Tony Robbins in Venezuela to prevent civil unrest using indirect negotiation techniques.
Creative Problem-Solving in Therapy
Cloe shares a case of a Mexican wife’s infidelity reframed as “temporary insanity” to reduce shame.
Describes motivating a suicidal client by redirecting focus toward fun and joy before job-seeking.
Advocates for flexible, outside-the-box therapeutic thinking.
Handling Double Binds in Couples Therapy
A participant asks how to manage double binds (e.g., expecting spontaneity on command).
Cloe recommends coaching the husband privately and using humor (e.g., slow striptease).
Suggests scheduling criticism to disrupt unhealthy communication patterns.
Fairness and Chore Disputes in Couples
Cloe proposes playful solutions: invite a friend over or make the partner watch shows they dislike.
Advises avoiding chore arguments in session.
Offers a practical model: define standards or have one partner compensate financially.
Humor, Play, and Paradox in Therapy
Cloe highlights the need for fun in sessions and minimizing over-communication.
Recommends playful activities like imitating actors to improve relational dynamics.
Encourages therapists to be inventive, tailoring unique strategies for each couple.
Cloé Madanes, HDL, LIC, is a world-renowned innovator and teacher of family and strategic therapy and one of the originators of the strategic approach to family therapy. She has authored seven books that are classics in the field: Strategic Family Therapy; Behind the One-Way Mirror; Sex, Love and Violence; The Violence of Men; The Secret Meaning of Money; The Therapist as Humanist, Social Activist and Systemic Thinker; and Relationship Breakthrough. She has presented her work at professional conferences all over the world and has given keynote addresses for The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference, the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy; the National Association of Social Workers, The Erickson Foundation, the California Psychological Association and many other national and international conferences. Madanes has won several awards for distinguished contribution to psychology and has counseled outstanding individuals from all walks of life.