Rituals have been used for thousands of years to help people move through difficult developmental times, to move on from problems and stuck places and to grieve and leave trauma behind. In this session, you will discover the two types of rituals that can help couples resolve their issues effectively.
What do you do with couples who are split on trying to working on their relationship or calling it quits? They are often poor candidate for traditional couples therapy but they are idea candidates for "Discernment Counseling," a creative way of working with couples our therapy models are not designed for. We will discuss the difference between couples therapy and discernment counseling.
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher discusses three brain systems that evolved for mating and reproduction: the sex drive; feelings of intense romantic love; and feelings of deep attachment to a long term partner. She then focuses on her brain scanning research (using fMRI) on romantic rejection and the trajectory of love addiction following rejection. She concludes with discussion of the brain circuits associated with long-term partnership happiness and the future of relationships in the digital age—what she calls “slow love.”
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The interdisciplinary field of Interpersonal Neurobiology combines all disciplines of science and other fields into one framework and offers a definition of the mind and of mental health that are of practical benefit to those seeking to enhance resilience and well-being. This perspective proposes that one aspect of the mind is an "emergent, self-organizing, embodied and relational process that regulates the flow of energy and information." From this view, a healthy mind and health itself emerge from a process called integration–the linkage of differentiated parts.
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This one-hour presentation will demonstrate cross-dialogic and other strategic techniques for shepherding couples toward secure functioning, an attitudinal and behavioral expectation that couples operate as a two-person psychological system. Because the concept of secure-functioning is principle based and not personality based, the success of secure-functioning relationships does not depend upon attachment orientation. The presentation will endeavor to help the clinician utilize psychobiological strategies to help clarify partner attachment strategies, true desires, and unspoken agendas in couple therapy.
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All couples and couples therapies struggle with issues of mixed loyalties. At any given moment, do I choose my own fulfillment as an individual or do I yield to the needs of the relationship? Is it a zero-sum game in which one partner wins and one loses – and if not, how else can we think about it? This keynote address introduces a model integrating both attachment and differentiation in couples therapy through the idea of enlightened self-interest – taking care of yourself by taking care of the relationship – as well as a model of healthy sacrifice, which is missing in our contemporary, Narcissistic culture.
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There is a deafening silence concerning mate selection in relationship therapy. Do we dare talk about what research says works–and doesn’t work? Are we afraid any insight might be used to justify leaving a good-enough relationship? While we all know relationships which defy logic, there are clear principles which can increase the probability of a more perfect union. These and other research facts will be explored.
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Ellyn will present a video of a first session with a couple about to separate after a third discovered infidelity. The session, conducted by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson focuses on illuminating how one partner’s unresolved family of origin issues create pain for both partners, contribute to infidelity and inhibit the development of the relationship. After the video presentation, Janis Spring will comment. We all learn more when we see therapeutic work discussed from multiple perspectives.
When information and advice fail to promote change, an experiential approach can foster adaptive realizations. Learn nonverbal and metaphoric methods to enliven your approach.
When information and advice fail to promote change, an experiential approach can foster adaptive realizations. Learn nonverbal and metaphoric methods to enliven your approach.
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