Description:
Since life is lived in the Space-Between and remembered in Space-Within, thus giving birth to subjectivity, therapeutic intervention should be directed to the Space-Between in order to effect change in the Space-Within. This radical shift from subjectivity to the interactive space calls for a radical revision of therapeutic interventions. This speech will describe the problem and discuss the impact of relational interventions.
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Understanding Conscious Partnership
Focus shifts from individuals to the space between partners.
Conscious partnership is defined by safety, equality, connection, and relaxed joy.
Imago Dialog is the central practice, fostering collaboration and co-creation.
Safety is essential—referencing Stephen Porges’ polyvagal theory.
Four Features of Conscious Partnership
Dialog: Taking turns talking and listening to replace judgment with curiosity.
Zero Negativity: Turning complaints into positive requests.
Empathy: Understanding a partner’s present behavior through past struggles.
Affirmation: Regularly pointing out what your partner does well.
Imago Dialog and Structured Conversations
Encourages non-judgmental speaking and non-critical listening.
Contrasts traditional monologue with structured, equal conversations.
Dialog includes mirroring, validating, and empathizing.
Sentence stems and structured turns create safety and clarity.
Practical Application of Imago Dialog
Couples practice asking for “appointments” to talk.
Eye contact, breathing, mirroring, and validation build connection.
Demonstrated dialog helps couples understand each other more deeply.
Focus is on building connection despite differences.
The Role of Empathy in Partnership
Past unmet needs often drive current behavior.
Imago identifies two caregiver types: intrusive and neglectful.
Recognizing these patterns helps partners respond with compassion.
Affirmations and Replacing Negativity
Replacing criticism with curiosity and affirmations strengthens bonds.
Couples are encouraged to share appreciations daily.
Affirmations build a positive relationship narrative and emotional safety.
Imago Therapy’s Impact on Families
Helen shares personal examples of how Imago strengthened her family.
The principles support peaceful, connected family environments.
Imago has been used across generations to foster healthy relationships.
Closing Remarks and Q&A
Q&A includes topics like mirroring, constructive criticism, and applying Imago in families.
Final message: Don’t give up—growth and healing in relationships are possible.
Doing Imago Therapy in the Space Between (488.5 MB) | Available after Purchase |
Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality. Harville is co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy and co-founder of Imago Relationships International. Chancellor of the Imago International Institute and emeritus board member of IRI. Dr. Hendrix has received an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters from Mercer University, Macon, GA, the Distinguished Service Award from the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, and the Distinguished Contributors Award by the Association for Imago Relationship Therapy. His latest book, written with his wife, Helen Hunt, is Receiving Love.
Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality.