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Introduction and Format
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Cloe Madanes is introduced for her contributions to psychotherapy.
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Invites audience questions to guide discussion.
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Approach to Difficult Clients
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Experienced in treating sex offenders and abuse victims.
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Developed a 15-step family therapy method emphasizing spirituality and compassion.
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Process includes family involvement, discussing the offense, and expressing remorse.
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Treatment Success and Adaptations
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Method has a 98% success rate with juvenile offenders.
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Adaptable for adult offenders and non-family abuse cases.
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Highlights importance of addressing intergenerational violence (influenced by Mary Bowen).
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Strategies for Common Issues
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“Take Three Issues” for overwhelmed parents: focus only on top 3 concerns.
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“Executive Meetings” for couples: scheduled weekly discussions outside the home.
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Humorously suggests paradoxical blocking of communication to reduce nagging.
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On Multi-Therapist Cases
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Recommends one therapist per family for consistency.
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Warns against separate therapy for different family members with different clinicians.
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Managing Time-Pressured Sessions
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For demanding clients, schedule intense cases last or plan multiple-day intensives.
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Offers personal phone calls in her online training for deeper support.
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Infidelity in Couples Therapy
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Infidelity isn’t one-sided; it can lead to a stronger relationship.
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Shift focus to creating a dream marriage rather than rehashing betrayal.
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References Esther Perel’s view of infidelity as a growth opportunity.
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Being a Female Leader in the Field
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Didn’t set out to be a trailblazer—focused on doing good work.
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Values professionalism, equal treatment for students, and traditional roles if chosen.
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Therapy Outside the Office
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Encourages walking sessions, outdoor activities, and visual interventions.
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Collaborates with Tony Robbins on immersive strategies.
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Advises partnering with schools and community orgs for impoverished families.
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Handling Denial in Adult Offenders
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Broaden the unit: involve family/professionals who can offer evidence.
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Be flexible and revise the strategy if new information arises.
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Shares example of needing to shift approach after discovering a false accusation.
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Helping Passive Parents
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Teach passive parents to move from “understanding” to “protective.”
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Reinforce authority and boundaries—kids need to feel contained and guided.
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Reframe parenting as an act of love through structure and clarity.
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