Description:
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Black shares logistical notes and plans for a short session.
Focus: effective treatment for partners of sex addicts.
A letter illustrates a partner’s shift from confidence to trauma and depression.
Partners often experience betrayal trauma, PTSD symptoms, and loss of self-worth.
Healing requires validation and addressing family of origin dynamics.
Relationships struggle with broken commitments and boundary violations.
Examples include recent discoveries and long-term patterns of infidelity.
Consequences: financial strain, children from affairs, emotional devastation.
Behaviors range from porn use to anonymous sex and compulsive masturbation.
Clarifies distinction between affairs and addiction—trauma is central either way.
Described as a pathological, progressive intimacy disorder.
Features: preoccupation, obsession, escalation, and continued behavior despite harm.
Parallels substance addiction; also marked by secrecy and shame.
Partners experience gaslighting, intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, and emotional instability.
Grounding and psychoeducation are critical in early recovery stages.
Partners need to share their story and be believed.
Understanding addiction reduces confusion and self-blame.
Includes examining denial and rationalization by both addict and partner.
Second phase: unpack denial and deeper emotional patterns.
Family of origin work is key to identifying lifelong survival strategies.
Physical symptoms (e.g., migraines, digestive issues) often emerge from chronic stress.
Polygraphs: not standard but sometimes helpful.
Emotional neglect and subtle control are forms of trauma.
Partner reactivity often stems from trauma, not personality disorders.
Single individuals need similar treatment minus relational practice.
Look for other addictions in both partners.
View the family as a treatment unit; involve multiple members when needed.
Suggests Al-Anon and support groups for family and children.
Stresses importance of breaking secrecy and generational patterns.
Recovery for partners includes group support, education, and setting boundaries.
Healing begins with integrity, self-respect, and honesty.
Recovery is possible, and help is available—for both addicts and partners.
Claudia Black, Ph.D., is internationally recognized for her pioneering and cutting-edge work with family systems and addictive disorders. Her work with children impacted by drug and alcohol addiction in the late 1970s fueled the advancement of the codependency and developmental trauma fields. Dr. Black’s passion to help young adults overcome obstacles and strengthen families built the foundation of the Claudia Black Young Adult Center. Not only is Dr. Black the clinical architect of this groundbreaking treatment program, she is also actively involved with the treatment team, patients, and their families.
Claudia is the author of It Will Never Happen To Me, Changing Course, My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has A Disease, Repeat After Me, It's Never Too Late To Have A Happy Childhood, Relapse Toolkit, A Hole in the Sidewalk, Depression Strategies, Straight Talk, The Stamp Game, Family Strategies, Anger Strategies, Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets, The Truth Begins With Youand her newest title, Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction. She has produced seven audio CDs addressing issues of addiction and recovery. They are A Time for Healing, Putting the Past Behind, Triggers, Emotional Baggage, Trauma in the Addicted Family, Imageries and Letting Go Imageries. She also has over 20 DVDs for professionals to use working with families and clients.