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Personal Background
Reflects on her mother’s divorce and its emotional impact.
Emphasizes how personal experience shaped her focus on helping long-term marriages succeed.
Personal Experience and Professional Focus
Her family’s divorce history inspired her mission to prevent unnecessary divorces.
"Divorce is forever" becomes a guiding belief in her work, highlighting its lifelong family impact.
Shares a story of visiting divorced parents, underscoring emotional consequences.
Divorce Trends and Relationship Challenges
Notes rising divorce rates, especially among empty nesters.
Most divorces stem from solvable, “garden variety” problems.
Promotes the core message of her book Divorce Busting: most marriages can and should be saved.
Walk Away Wife Syndrome
Describes the common dynamic where women emotionally withdraw before filing for divorce.
Explains how women often become relationship caretakers while men miss emotional cues.
Emphasizes importance of shared time and male understanding of female needs.
Divorce Busting Center and Therapeutic Model
Works with “11th Hour” couples, often facing infidelity or long-term disconnection.
Advocates change even when only one partner is in therapy.
Uses personal intensives and phone coaching with proven success.
Online Community and Professional Resources
Created an online message board for couples to find support and share experiences.
Promotes self-help and confidentiality, especially in infidelity cases.
Reinforces the power of hope and therapist optimism in relationship recovery.
Addressing Infidelity and High-Stakes Problems
Advises careful handling of affair disclosures with focus on repair and commitment.
Shares a success story of a woman recommitting to her marriage.
Acknowledges the limits of work when dealing with addiction or abuse.
Engaging Men in Therapy
Explores challenges in reaching traditional men who are action-focused.
Encourages women to adjust communication styles to better connect with their partners.
Discusses the complexity of midlife crises in couples therapy.
The Last Resort Technique
Introduces the technique for partners dealing with withdrawal or crisis.
Key steps: stop pursuing, avoid status-checking, become less predictable, find independent interests.
Emphasizes patience and looking for small, positive shifts in partner behavior.
Success Stories and Encouragement
Shares a reader’s success using the Last Resort Technique to save their marriage.
Reiterates the critical role of hope in the therapeutic process.
Encourages therapists to teach actionable tools and remain optimistic for their clients.
Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW is the Founder of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado. She is a popular TEDx speaker and the author of eight books including, Healing From Infidelity, and the bestselling Divorce Busting and The Sex-Starved Marriage. She is the recipient of several prestigious awards including the Outstanding Contribution to Marriage and Family Therapy Award from AAMFT.