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EP09 Conversation Hour 02 – Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW


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Topic Areas:
Conversation Hours |  Psychotherapy |  Communication |  Couples Therapy |  Divorce |  Motivation |  Solution Oriented Approach
Categories:
Evolution of Psychotherapy |  Evolution of Psychotherapy 2009 |  Pioneers in Couples and Family Therapy
Faculty:
Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW
Duration:
1 Hour 06 Minutes
Format:
Audio Only
Original Program Date:
Dec 11, 2009
License:
Never Expires.



Description

Description:

Educational Objectives:

  1. To learn the philosophies of various practitioners and theorists.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

Outline:

Personal Background

  • Reflects on her mother’s divorce and its emotional impact.

  • Emphasizes how personal experience shaped her focus on helping long-term marriages succeed.

Personal Experience and Professional Focus

  • Her family’s divorce history inspired her mission to prevent unnecessary divorces.

  • "Divorce is forever" becomes a guiding belief in her work, highlighting its lifelong family impact.

  • Shares a story of visiting divorced parents, underscoring emotional consequences.

Divorce Trends and Relationship Challenges

  • Notes rising divorce rates, especially among empty nesters.

  • Most divorces stem from solvable, “garden variety” problems.

  • Promotes the core message of her book Divorce Busting: most marriages can and should be saved.

Walk Away Wife Syndrome

  • Describes the common dynamic where women emotionally withdraw before filing for divorce.

  • Explains how women often become relationship caretakers while men miss emotional cues.

  • Emphasizes importance of shared time and male understanding of female needs.

Divorce Busting Center and Therapeutic Model

  • Works with “11th Hour” couples, often facing infidelity or long-term disconnection.

  • Advocates change even when only one partner is in therapy.

  • Uses personal intensives and phone coaching with proven success.

Online Community and Professional Resources

  • Created an online message board for couples to find support and share experiences.

  • Promotes self-help and confidentiality, especially in infidelity cases.

  • Reinforces the power of hope and therapist optimism in relationship recovery.

Addressing Infidelity and High-Stakes Problems

  • Advises careful handling of affair disclosures with focus on repair and commitment.

  • Shares a success story of a woman recommitting to her marriage.

  • Acknowledges the limits of work when dealing with addiction or abuse.

Engaging Men in Therapy

  • Explores challenges in reaching traditional men who are action-focused.

  • Encourages women to adjust communication styles to better connect with their partners.

  • Discusses the complexity of midlife crises in couples therapy.

The Last Resort Technique

  • Introduces the technique for partners dealing with withdrawal or crisis.

  • Key steps: stop pursuing, avoid status-checking, become less predictable, find independent interests.

  • Emphasizes patience and looking for small, positive shifts in partner behavior.

Success Stories and Encouragement

  • Shares a reader’s success using the Last Resort Technique to save their marriage.

  • Reiterates the critical role of hope in the therapeutic process.

  • Encourages therapists to teach actionable tools and remain optimistic for their clients.

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Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW is the Founder of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado. She is a popular TEDx speaker and the author of eight books including, Healing From Infidelity, and the bestselling Divorce Busting and The Sex-Starved Marriage. She is the recipient of several prestigious awards including the Outstanding Contribution to Marriage and Family Therapy Award from AAMFT. 


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