Leading men, women and non-binary people into true intimacy is synonymous with leading them beyond patriarchy. Traditional gender roles were never built for intimacy, but for stability. For example, the traditional term masculinity MEANS invulnerability—the more invulnerable you are the more manly you are and visa versa. Yet, you cannot be intimate and invulnerable at the same time. Leading men into intimacy means nothing less than reconfiguring who they are as men. Traditionally women and partners of men are socialized to over accommodate and resent. More modern women and partners have been taught to speak up with individual empowerment, but rarely with ‘relational empowerment.’ RLT (Relational Life Therapy) teaches people to stand up for themselves and love and cherish their partner in the same breath. “Loving power” also goes beyond the morays of patriarchy, we therapists are intimacy merchants. Our work is at once therapeutic and social activism. This address invites participants to acknowledge this concept and learn to use it skillfully.
Participants will be given the tools they need and invited to:
Terry Real, LICSW, is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over twenty-five years. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others.