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CC17 Workshop 08 - Strong Leadership in Couples Therapy: How the Developmental Model Helps You (Part 2) - Ellyn Bader, PhD


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Topic Areas:
Workshops |  Developmental Therapy Model |  Couples Therapy |  Leadership |  Therapist Development |  Clinical Psychology |  Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) |  Interpersonal Therapy |  Trauma
Categories:
Couples Conference |  Couples Conference 2017
Faculty:
Ellyn Bader, PhD
Duration:
50:46
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Audio Only
Original Program Date:
Apr 01, 2017
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CC17 Workshop 08 - Strong Leadership in Couples Therapy: How the Developmental Model Helps You (Part 2) - Ellyn Bader, PhD

Outline:

  • Staying Alive in Couples Therapy

    • Emphasis on staying emotionally engaged as a therapist and helping couples reconnect.
    • The work is viewed as sacred, especially with couples in crisis.
    • Session builds on prior work with Trish and Paul, introducing new interventions.
  • Background on Trish and Paul

    • Together seven years, blended family, conflict around parenting and connection.
    • Previous paper exercise used to assess differentiation.
    • Trish feels bonded to her kids; Paul feels excluded and disconnected.
  • Navigating Conflict and Avoidance

    • Trish expresses frustration with conflict-avoidant dynamics and desire for depth.
    • Paul's upbringing with alcoholic parents drives his avoidance.
    • The initiator-inquirer process introduced to help shift their dynamic.
  • Initiator-Inquirer Process Overview

    • Initiator raises one issue calmly, focuses on self-reflection.
    • Inquirer listens, asks clarifying, curiosity-driven questions.
    • Designed to build differentiation, increase emotional tolerance, and define boundaries.
  • Demonstration with Trish and Paul

    • Paul initiates, sharing his feelings of exclusion.
    • Trish responds emotionally, recognizing her role in creating distance.
    • Exercise surfaces vulnerability and accountability for both partners.
  • Group Reflections and Key Takeaways

    • Participants note Paul’s bravery and Trish’s emotional response.
    • Importance of silence, emotional processing, and therapist patience highlighted.
    • Session ends focused on accountability, creating memorable moments, and encouraging therapists to bring more of themselves into the work.

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Ellyn Bader, PhD, is a founder and director of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. As a clinical psychologist, workshop leader, author, and speaker, she is dedicated to helping couples create extraordinary relationships. Over the past 30 years she has trained therapists in couples therapy throughout the United States as well as Europe, Asia, South America, and Australia. She served as a Clinical Faculty in Stanford University School of Medicine for 8 years.


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