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CC17 Workshop 05 - Strong Leadership in Couples Therapy: How the Developmental Model Helps You (Part 1) - Ellyn Bader, PhD


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Topic Areas:
Workshops |  Developmental Therapy Model |  Couples Therapy |  Leadership |  Therapist Development |  Group Therapy |  Therapist Techniques
Categories:
Couples Conference |  Couples Conference 2017
Faculty:
Ellyn Bader, PhD
Duration:
53:04
Format:
Audio Only
Original Program Date:
Apr 01, 2017
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CC17 Workshop 05 - Strong Leadership in Couples Therapy: How the Developmental Model Helps You (Part 1) - Ellyn Bader, PhD

Outline:

  • Introduction and Staying Alive in Therapy

    • Focus on staying present and engaged, especially with hostile or angry couples.
    • Workshop split between personal growth and creating memorable moments for clients.
    • Participants reflect on their best sessions and qualities like openness, compassion, and engagement.
  • Developmental Model of Couples Therapy

    • Workshop follows one couple through the day, demonstrating developmental progress.
    • Emphasis on most couples being stuck in early hostile or avoidant stages.
    • Discussion of creating emotional impact through therapist presence and questioning.
  • Starting with a Hostile Couple

    • Couple: blended family, together seven years, not married.
    • Pete uses open, non-shaming questions to facilitate connection and dialogue.
    • Group discusses creating a positive environment and the need for clarifying distinctions to progress.
  • Exploring the Couple's Dynamics

    • Major complaints aired, symbiotic patterns identified (sensitivity, personalization).
    • Power dynamics and differentiation issues highlighted.
    • Couple’s history (meeting on Match.com, breakup) reviewed for context.
  • The Paper Exercise: Conflict and Differentiation

    • Each partner chooses something important and negotiates who gets the paper.
    • No ripping allowed—forces direct engagement with conflict.
    • Participants observe avoidant behavior and lack of self-definition.
  • Analyzing Behavior and Differentiation

    • Six observation categories: self-definition, other-awareness, boundaries, conflict engagement, negotiation, giving/receiving.
    • Exercise reveals how the couple avoids conflict and lacks differentiation.
    • Creates emotional impact and reveals patterns needing attention.
  • Integrating Exercise into Ongoing Therapy

    • Exercise used as a foundation for deeper work on conflict and differentiation.
    • Reinforces need for a safe, growth-oriented environment in therapy.
    • Group reflects on their own reactions and insights.
  • Preparing for Deeper Afternoon Work

    • Afternoon session will focus on Trish’s internal conflict and further differentiation work.
    • Therapists encouraged to consider what parts of themselves they hold back in sessions.
    • Disco ball prop symbolizes the complexity of self and showing multiple facets.
  • Therapist Personal Growth and Closing Reflections

    • Participants challenged to bring more aliveness into sessions—whether confrontation, softness, or openness to sex topics.
    • Workshop ends with a focus on therapists’ personal growth enhancing client work.

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Ellyn Bader, PhD, is a founder and director of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. As a clinical psychologist, workshop leader, author, and speaker, she is dedicated to helping couples create extraordinary relationships. Over the past 30 years she has trained therapists in couples therapy throughout the United States as well as Europe, Asia, South America, and Australia. She served as a Clinical Faculty in Stanford University School of Medicine for 8 years.


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