Motivational factors may be central in the life of a couple. The panel will describe conflicts due to motivational factors and provide therapeutic options.
Passive aggressive spouses challenge even seasoned couple’s therapists. One partner over functions and the other under functions. Both become entrenched in this pattern. And the passive aggressive partner stubbornly resists your best insights and agreements for change. As conventional therapy often falls flat with this couple, I will do a demonstration showing you to stay out of the middle and create an unconventional leverage for change. Leave with a comprehensive framework for changing
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Conventional approaches begin with: What brings you here? How can I help? What are your objectives? These are great questions for individuals but they are toxic for dysfunctional couples. Their responses will get you a truckload of cross complaints. After ten minutes nobody is feeling great.
Volatile couples come to couples therapy with a fearsome mixture of trauma, devastated dreams, and defensive attitudes. If you ask about their goals or how you can help, you quickly get intense cross complaints, and pressure to fix their partner. Simply trying to understand their problems and asking about their goals can be a toxic beginning as their defensiveness and trauma get re-triggered. This innovative approach is the result of 30 years of seeing couples and searching for a better beginning. In this workshop you will understand how to have each person identify their role in the distress, accept accountability for self-change, identify personal growth changes that are a stretch, create the foundation to work as a team and do it all with a spirit of cooperation and positive strokes. Do all this and more in the first session.
Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson will start the Conference off with a Keynote on why Attachment, Differentiation and Neuroscience matter in Couples Therapy. Skillful integration of these approaches will enable you to more calmly manage couples hostility, outrageous demands and conflict/intimacy avoidance.
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High conflict and chronically distresses add to each others’ trauma while triggering historical trauma. Reducing, calming or eliminating the emotional triggers is an essential part of changing their negative ingrained patterns. See a live demonstration and/or experience a process to bring about immediate relief of painful memories (and sometimes) not even having to talk about them.
Couples in our society are very isolated from other couples and from "what is normal" in a relationship. Couples workshops provide a unique opportunity to de-mystify relationship stress and change destructive cycles quickly. Attendees will have an opportunity to experience effective exercises used in couple's workshops.
Chronically angry, hostile, distancing and rigid couples are a clinical and personal challenge. In this workshop, you will learn to change the trajectory of therapy as soon as entrenched patterns are noticed, to stay out of their conflict, and stay calm in the middle of their storm.