What do consent, great sex, strong agreements, and well-functioning polyamory have in common? The Developmental Model of Couple’s Therapy holds important keys to creating all of them. In this keynote, sex therapist Martha Kauppi will discuss why she finds the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy to be an ideal fit for her relational sex therapy practice. Learn how weaving together concepts of attachment, differentiation, and neuroscience empowers clients to create strong, healthy intimate and sexual relationships.
The Solution Focused Approach with couples is a brief and outcome-driven approach to couples therapy. The focus is on the present and future, rather than the past. The aim is to help couples identify and achieve their desired outcomes, while ignoring or minimizing any problematic behaviors.
Participants will receive an overview of RLT, a potent form of couples therapy which offers clients a map and specific set of skills that enable them to live relationally – that is, in a state of authentic connection to themselves, those they love, society, nature, and Spirit.
RLT replaces the individualistic and patriarchal delusion of power over nature with “ecological wisdom.” Our relationships are our biosphere. We live within them, not above them.
RLT offers a practical “relational technology” that delivers on our cultures brand new ambition- a truly intimate life-long romance.
Since 1988, professionals worldwide have used and taught the Developmental Model. Feedback from thousands of therapists and clients tells us what matters most to clients and what parts of the Developmental Model have led to the greatest breakthroughs in therapeutic skill.
This keynote will emphasize 1) core principles of Developmental thinking that resonate with clients and 2) targeted skill sets that enable therapists to eliminate painful stuck patterns with couples. You’ll come away knowing how to move your couples forward to create enduring change.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a model of therapy that views the mind as a system of sub-personalities or parts that hold different beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. IFS also believes that each person has a “Self” that has inherent wisdom or healing capacity.
When we apply IFS to couples, we help each partner become aware of their own parts and how they interact with their partners parts. This helps couples resolve conflicts that arise when their parts are in opposition to each other. IFS also helps each member of the couple identify and heal the wounds within them that can get in the way of intimacy in the relationship.
The overall goal of IFS in couples is to help individuals become more aware of their own parts, to access empathy for their partner’s parts, and release the blocks that cause conflicts to develop a more compassionate relationship within themselves and their relationship.
This two-hour workshop will demonstrate how to foster secure functioning in your couple practice. Attendees will first get a deeper understanding of what is secure functioning versus insecure functioning in a couple system. We will answer the question as to why secure functioning is the only possible solution to relationship satisfaction and longevity. Then, through live demonstration, attendees will experience various challenges and opportunities to promote secure-functioning principles and orient partners toward a two-person psychological system of interdependency, teamwork, threat reduction, win-win outcomes, and protection of their union. We will also cover conflict management and why a couple system can be measured by how much load bearing it can take before the wheels start coming off.
This workshop will provide participants with an integrated framework, e.g., sociological, systemic, and models of sex therapy, from which to consider the strengths and skills that non-heteronormative relational systems can teach relational therapists working with monogamous couples interested in deepening both emotional attunement and interpersonal differentiation. Specific topics will include exploring clinician bias, challenge heteronormative constructs of
relational, sexual, and erotic practices, and the necessity of integrating various relational models of intervention tailored specifically to the relational systems we work with.
Under patriarchy – the framework we all live within – one can be connected or powerful; but not both at the same time. This workshop gives nuts and bolts technique for helping our clients discover “soft” or “loving” power. How to stand up for one’s self and cherish one’s partner, and the relationship, in the same breath. How one partner can help empower the other to come through for them, a win/win for both.
Learn how to teach clients the 3 steps to getting what you want
– Daring to rock the boat
– Teaching them what you want
– Encouraging, rather than discouraging, progress
Like any population, LGBTQIA+ individuals have a variety of different parts within their internal system. However, LGBTQIA+ clients may also have parts that are specifically related to their experiences of gender and sexual identity. These parts can be particularly strong in clients who have experiences discrimination, stigma, or trauma related to their LGBTQIA+ identity.
The Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy can be helpful for LGBTQIA+ couples in several ways. It can help each partner develop greater self-awareness and compassion for their own internal system. It can help partner develop greater empathy for their partner’s internal parts and their lived experience. And it can help couples work through conflicts that arise in the relationship related to identity, family legacy, sexuality, culture struggles, and trauma related issues that arise in the relationship.
This workshop introduces participants to a new form of couples therapy – one that does deep individual work in the presence of the partner. Most of us, when faced in couples therapy with one or both partners needing trauma work or work on their characters refer these individuals to individual treatment. RLT offers a combination of loving confrontation (Joining through the truth), educational coaching on relational skills, and inner child work that, taken together, produce quick, profound, and lasting change.
Any mental health professional or coach dealing with relational issues in his or her work. It is relevant to both couples therapists and individual therapists with a relational perspective. Anyone interested in how to integrate trauma work into couples therapy. Anyone wishing to go more deeply in their own clinical work.