The major difference between romantic and real love is that romantic love HAPPENS to you without your choice. It finds you. In contrast, real love is nowhere to be found and it does not exist without your choice. In fact, it comes into being only by an act of will. You create it, and, in that act, you become what you want. This lecture will describe the paradox of “giving what you want” is the only way to get it.

Learning Objectives:

1. Teach the difference between romantic and real love.
2. Help couples practice the dialogue process that helps them make the shift.
3. Discuss with clients and colleagues the paradox of real love.